My wife and I took the CTP course in a time when we both knew that we wanted change in our relationship. We had fundamental ways of settling conflict with each other that really didn’t work for either of us and didn’t allow us to have the relationship that we wanted. I had a tendency in arguments to feel blamed and then want to withdraw until the argument blew over. The end result was that I was feeling resentful of not getting my needs met in relationship and my wife has shared with me that she felt the same.
What I am learning in the CTP course impacts me in a way that I have found that I can trust that my partner can really see and understand me if I take the time to really see and understand her first. This has been a difficult process for us both but we now see new ways of being that enrich how we show up together. The first lessons sparked up more arguments than usual in our relationship as we unburied needs that we both had, but the resolution of those arguments came quicker than ever and ended up with us both feeling closer to each other. As we go further into the program, our arguments are shorter, fewer and we are learning that they are a sign to evolve our agreements together. I fear arguments less and now see them as a deep opportunity to engage in creating the relationship that I want.
As a health care practitioner and an acupuncturist in a busy integrative medicine clinic, I know how much that the stress of relationship can impact all aspects of our health and livelihood. I am aware that most of our models of relationship that we either grew up with or have learned by trial and error, do not create the relationship we most want to have. This is a golden chance to invest in the relationship that you most want to have and I implore you to take it.
Many blessings,
M.L.
Licensed Acupuncturist and Herbalist
Boulder, CO
I have been faced with some very tough challenges in the past month. I handled them with with poise, making dramatically better choices today compared to last year. It is amazing to me how many skills and how much consciousness I have developed through working with Mark.
When I contrast my current capacity with when I started working with Mark, I am amazed by what I can handle and what I can acheive in my life. The trajectory and momentum on so many core dimensions of my life have changed for the better. I feel profound gratitude for your work. It is mind blowing. Thank you Mark.Ronn Soukotta
CEO Fingo LLC.
Thriving Partnerships is an important and powerful course. It asks profound questions and offers crucial insights into relationship and our role in it. I found myself examining behaviors and patterns of mine that I didn’t realize were holding me back in relationship, and noticing thoughts and beliefs that were limiting me. Even after the first lesson or two, I found myself working with conflict in my relationships in a new and healthier way, getting better results. I highly recommend this course for anyone interested in deepening their relationships and increasing their ability to communicate successfully.
Rachel Leber
Elementary School Teacher, Prenatal Yoga Teacher
and Specialty Baker
Boulder, CO
This program is really helpful, teaching an old dog new tricks. I have been with my partner 17 years, and though we both had some education and practice in relationship and communication skills, we were lacking in many areas and had built up some deep grooves of bad habits. I am now learning to communicate in a way that I am heard and received (when things are difficult and uncomfortable) – which I have been longing for for years and feeling resentful about not experiencing. Also, the harder part- I am beginning to be able to listen and receive his message when he is upset at me., and be open to the impact of his feelings while maintaining my center. The two of us have had alot of conflict together, which had worried me a lot in the past. Now it is becoming an opportunity for us to grow closer. We building more clarity, trust, and joy together. Like Mark says, the more, the more.
J.L.
Boulder, CO