In this session, you will:

Integrity

The integrity of our Self is the foundation for all happiness and fulfillment in our lives. The word “Integrity” comes from the word “integer” or “whole.” To have integrity is to be integrated within one’s Self, to have our actions and values in alignment, and to be of one piece. The more we honor the truth of our Self, the more we honor our spiritual nature. Recognizing and accepting who and what we truly are is the first step to greater realization and inner peace.

The health and vitality of our Self is a function of being true to our thoughts, feelings, desires, and experiences. When we honor our deeper values by choosing to act in alignment with them in the face of challenges, we demonstrate and deepen our integrity with our Self. This development is at the heart of psychological and spiritual growth.

Authenticity

Authenticity is the action of integrity. Giving ourselves permission to think what we think, feel what we feel, and want what we want.

The truth is, we feel exactly what we feel. We might wish this were different or not what to think/feel what we are thinking/feeling, but the authentic truth is, those thoughts, feelings and desires are what is happening.

You already think, feel or desire these thing, so you might as well give yourself the permission to do so right?

To honor what and who you are is the fundamental act of authenticity.

Authenticity is the foundation of integrity and thriving. Authenticity is a choice, and our primary responsibility.

The more, the more

Our integrity with our Self is the foundation on which all happiness, fulfillment, and success in relating is built. It is only when we honor the truth of our experience, when we honor our Self, that we can share the truth of who we are with another and create the love, trust, and intimacy that we desire.

It is the experience of wholeness that allows us to open our heart, mind, and soul to another human being and share our truths vulnerably.

In this way, our integrity with our Self is both the doorway to the ecstasy of life and the foundation for intimate relating.

All we will know is that we didn’t sell our Self out to please someone else.

These concepts are explored in much greater detail in this lesson.

In the first 4 sessions, we focused on inspiration, attitude, practice, and methods to get yourself in the game of creating thriving partnership and build momentum towards thriving

We explored first, what does it mean to thrive in a partnership – for you then we gave you the attitude of right right thinking the practice of presuming positive relating and the method of The Synergy Process

In these next 4 sessions, we will take a deeper cut at what it means to have a thriving partnership is so you can get your mind around how relationships actually work and how you can make them work for you.

Practice to Theory

We could say that, in the first 4 sessions, we started off with some practices, and now we want to give you some theory.

We started you off with specific techniques to manage your garden now we want to give you insight into the nature of soil and seed and rain and sun to cultivate thriving relationships, to create thriving relationships to empower you to go beyond paint by numbers, into true artistry in your relationships.

3 of 5 keys

Specifically, we’ll cover the first 3 of the 5 keys to create thriving partnerships
The first key is Reality or Conscious Relating – Becoming conscious of what partnership really is, what is really happening in your partnership.
The second key is Intentional Relating or Reason – clarity How the way we understand and approach partnership impacts how we create it
and the third key is Responsibility – How we honor our Integrity AND the integrity of our partner to create thriving partnerships

These sessions get you clear about what thriving partnership is , how you understand it, and how you honor your values within it.

What does this session offer?

I will now describe what I like to call, “the three spheres of thriving partnerships.”

Over the last decade of teaching this work, this diagram of the three spheres of thriving partnerships tends to be one of my most popular diagrams and ideas

If you have ever felt hopelessly confused by relationships – like you would never really understand how they work this session will give you a diagram, a single image that will help you make sense of just what thriving partnerships are and how you can build it in any area of your life.

The more you understand this diagram and the principles it expresses the more you will recognize the dynamics it describes playing out everywhere in your life and get insights that allow you to create partnership where used to experience conflict.

So let’s get started.

In this session, you will:

Some highlights from this lesson:

Our Stories

Our stories tell us what something is.
They interpret facts into understanding.
They make sense of our world.
Stories can be congruent with reality or incongruent

Congruent stories give us power to create thriving – they are empowering stories
Incongruent stories are delusion and thwart our thriving – they are illusory stories

Stories tell us what something means
They project out our understandings into the future
They tell us where we are headed – what trajectory we are on
They create feelings about where we are headed

Stories can project positive or negative future outcomes
Positive stories create inspiring emotions
Negative stories create depressing emotions

Stories create emotions
Our thoughts create our feelings
Our feelings influence the stories we tell

The more, the more.
Fear leads to fearful stories and more fearful emotions
hope leads to hopeful stories and more hopeful emotions
When we use our best reason to tell empowering and inspiring stories – we are telling intentional stories

Our stories are typically unconscious and unintentional
We only experience the effects (understandings, emotions) not the cause – (the interpretations and projections)
Unconsciousness leads to right/wrong thinking, VSR, and resentment/resignation,

Our stories are unintentional
We did not choose them, we inherited them (mimicry and rebellion)
We inherit the understandings and the emotions
We inherit the self-righteousness

To thrive, we must do due diligence on our stories about partnership

This course will help you:

Commitments

2 hours per week for 12 weeks.
Bring your best attention and intention – listen, take notes, do the exercises.

What Does It Mean To Create Thriving Partnerships

Partnership is the whole to which each participant contributes their part. To partner with someone is to work together with them as part of greater whole, we each do our part to make that whole thrive.

Thriving is growth. Thriving is the action of realizing your potential becoming more of what you can be.

Creating has two central meanings:
1. Proactively causing a result in reality through our action.
2. Intentionally imagining new possibilities through our thinking

So, Creating Thriving Partnerships means:

• to intentionally imagine new possibilities for depth and beauty in service of a whole greater than ourselves, and
• to proactively do our part to cause those possibilities to become reality in action.

5 KEYS or Dimensions to creating Thriving partnership

The 5 Keys are also the 5 R’s:

• Conscious Relating – Reality – real-world relationships
• Intentional Relating – Reason – understanding and skill
• Authentic Relating – Responsibility – to honor your integrity, Honoring I and YOU and US
• Evolving Relating – Respect – Synergy DEAR process — conflict to cooperation, transcendent
• Intimate Relating – Realization – love intimacy and depth

Now that we have learned the essential distinctions of Right/Right thinking and Presuming Positive Intention, we are ready to effectively practice in relationship and introduce you to The Synergy Process, an incredibly powerful tool to create thriving partnerships.

In this lesson, we will learn the Synergy Process, the relationship tool to systematically turn conflict into greater connection.

This is the practical expression of Right/Right thinking and presuming positive intention.

Learn to create synergy where most people create resentment and resignation.

Systematically use our differences as an opportunity to build partnerships.

Change the way we think about the issue instead of falling back into the old Win-lose, lose-win, lose-lose outcomes.

Shift the focus from what we want, to the reason why we want something.

“What do you want through having X”

When we reveal the higher purpose for each person, we get a much wider range of opportunities to find win-win outcomes.

Listen to Lesson 4, and get this distinction in much greater detail, then proceed to Exercise 4