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Realization – The Cycle of Intimacy and the Dance of Vulnerability

Exercise Questions:

Choose a mid-level vulnerability you want to work with, that you want to share with your partner.
(30 Seconds)

Imagine choosing not to share it. Notice what it feels like to give yourself permission to make that choice. (your yes is only as good as your no.)
(30 Seconds)

Imagine actually choosing to share this vulnerably with your partner.
(30 Seconds)

Imagine your partner sharing something vulnerable with you.
(15 Seconds)

Imagine presupposing positive intention and communicating nonverbally that it is safe to share this with you.
(30 Seconds)

Start with your partner sharing something vulnerable. Imagine consciously listening to your partner and have them feel understood and accepted.
(30 Seconds)

Imagine match and mirror their feeling content before we clarify the message.
(30 Seconds)

Imagine accepting your partner (as distinct from agreeing with them or validating them.)
(30 Seconds)

Back to the issue you want to share, imagine entering the conversation with the intention of being understood, not fighting.
(15 Seconds)

As you are sharing, be listening for your own motivation and your own message. Put your intention on clarifying your motivation(the feeling) and your message. Imagine hearing yourself speak, so that you can recognize your own motivation and your own message and clarify it to your partner.
(30 Seconds)

Set the intention to notice the difference between having them agree with you and having them accept your person even if they disagree with what you think/feel/want/did. Allow them to disagree with what you did, but create acceptance for who you are.
(30 Seconds)