Right-Click/Ctrl-Click to Download

Love: Falling in, Being in and Telling your love story

Exercise Questions:

Let’s start from where we are to create the partnership we want. That includes forgiving ourselves for whatever fantasies we have cultivated up till now – from here on out were going to deal with reality and build from there.
So, take 30 seconds and just tell yourself and then, accept what you’re telling yourself that you are forgiven for any fantasies that you might have told and whatever disillusionment that you might have created. Take 30 seconds and do this. Now.
(30 Seconds)

Now, let’s take some time to focus on what’s right. Let’s start with what’s right with you in partnership. What are some of the good things about you that you bring to the partnership that bodes well for love and intimacy, and teamwork and fun. What’s right about you? take 30 seconds and write down a number of things that you bring to the partnership which are good for the potential of love.
(30 Seconds)

Now that we’ve begun to make you right. It’s time to make your partner right. Instead of focusing on what your partner doesn’t bring (or what they bring that you don’t like), let’s focus on the good things that they do bring (or the things that they don’t bring that you’re glad that they don’t bring)! Take 30 seconds and list out some of the gifts and talents and awareness and desires that your partner brings to the partnership that bode well for love.
(30 Seconds)

You can compare yourself to other partnerships that suck see can be glad that that’s not happening. Again take 30 seconds and list out some of the really good things in your partnership
(30 Seconds)

Next, let’s take 30 seconds and just list out the most common ugly stories that you tell about your partnership so you can learn to recognize them and STOP TELLING THEM! Take 30 seconds and write them down.
(30 Seconds)

Next, – practice the fundamental story of romance.
“At some point I made the decision that I was going to give it everything I have. I worked to build a thriving partnership. From that point forward, I did the work that was necessary — and eventually my partner got inspired –until together we created the love that we always wanted. We are so proud of the work that it took for us to get there.”This is a love story that is worth getting good at telling.
So take 30 seconds and just tell some version of that story that speaks to you.
(30 Seconds)

So again let’s start by learning to recognize the victim stories.
So the we can stop telling them take 30 seconds and write out the most common victim stories that you tell in your partnership. Get them out of your head and on paper.
(30 Seconds)

Take 30 seconds and tell a story about how you’re going to honor which you think and what you feel and what you want in partnership with your partner
(30 Seconds)

So let’s tell a story about how you stand for your partners integrity in the partnership. Tell a story about how you honor what they think and what they feel and what they want
(30 Seconds)

Tell a story about how you’re getting better and better at respecting one another nonverbally — presuming that they’ve got good intentions, you just need to find out what they are! (so that you can work together to make REALize them). Take 30 seconds and tell stories about positive intentions.
(30 Seconds)

Take 30 seconds and imagine using the YES, DEAR conversation and the Synergy Process to take issues that perhaps would’ve been challenges, and turn them into the foundation on which you build a thriving partnership
(30 Seconds)

If you’re telling a story in which you don’t fall deeper in love — your first step is stop projecting a future in which you feel isolated and unfulfilled is telling a lead story — you won’t be surprised to hear me say “don’t do that.”
So let’s take 30 seconds and get any of those non-realization leave stories out of your head and on paper we can learn to recognize them. take 30 seconds and write them down.
(30 Seconds)

Instead tell a story that although you had your rough patches some hard work encourage you eventually came through it into love. So take 30 seconds and tell a story about your partnership in which in the and you grew closer and deeper and more intimate where you learn to know each other in ways that no one else knows
(30 Seconds)