Lessons 10-13 – Key #4 – RESPECT


You are entering the nuts and bolts of Creating Thriving Partnerships – the fourth Key of Thriving Partnership: RESPECT.

This section will teach you the Yes DEAR process you will use again and again to transform your Unconscious Implicit Expectations into Conscious Explicit Agreements. This is where you learn to use your emotions and boundary issues to build Partnership where you would otherwise build resentment.

Lessons 10-13 build on lessons 2-4 on Right-Right Thinking, Presuming Positive Intention, and The Synergy Process. You will learn a step by step process to transform Problems into Solutions and formally Create increasingly Thriving Partnerships at each step of your journey!

Again, you can get the IDEAS from the full program by just listening to the lessons, but to INTEGRATE them into your real-world life, you will need to actively listen to each lesson (take notes) and participate fully in each exercise.

Ideally, you will open the transcript to each lesson in Google Docs, the save your own copy so that you read through the transcript as you listen and take notes on your own insights. Feel free to stop the audio at any point to write down ideas for how to apply what you have learned. Remember, you don’t get a trophy for completing the course. It’s what you do with the ideas in your own life that matters – that is where you Thrive!

(Note from Mark: I HIGHLY encourage listening to each lesson twice in a row. The first time familiarizes you with the concepts, the second time locks them in.)

There are also various “bonus” lessons throughout the course. These are optional. They often place the lesson in a historical/philosophical context, and help you integrate the work into a larger world view. Enjoy at your leisure.

If you have any questions throughout this course, feel free to email us at anytime: [email protected]

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Lesson 1

The most important choice you’ll ever make in partnership

  • Clarity is power. Clarity is also peace and persuasiveness.
  • When you know what you really want, saying yes and saying no become simple and even expressions of who you are.
  • In this lesson, you learn to master the power of what, the power of how, the power of why, and power of will.
  • Get the power to look your partner in the eyes and tell them the truth in a way that makes them want to go deeper with you with you.

Lesson 2

Moving From Right/Wrong To Right/Right Relating

In this lesson you will learn about the single most destructive dynamic in all of human relationships, and how to identify it (in yourself, your partner, and in all of your relationships). Once you have learned it, you will be taught how to bypass it and transform how you deal with relationships permanently. This skill is essential for Thriving Partnerships, and is infinitely useful for anyone in business, who has a family, or who works with people. It is a universal relating skill.

  • Skill- The Victim Self-Righteousness Dynamic. Understand, Integrate, Transform.

Lesson 3

Presuming Positive Intention

In this lesson you will learn about the single most useful frame to approach any relationship and get positive results. This lesson is especially important for relationships in which trust and ease are no longer functioning. If you feel like you are getting the opposite of what you want from your partner, this is a tool and skill that you need to learn, to transform your experience, so that you can get what you want from your relationship.

  • Skill- Presuming Positive Intention. Transforming your expectations, and triggering positive results. (This skill is essential for building positive relationships with children, and is especially useful for parents).

Lesson 4

The Synergy Process: Creating Win-Win Agreements

This lesson addresses issues that arise when partners have a low level of skill in creating agreements. Relationships that demand compromise thereby producing unsatisfying or “losing” results for each partner will find significantly more pleasurable and successful outcomes as a result of using this tool. If agreements are either being broken, evaded, or constantly renegotiated this skill set will be invaluable for you. It is also an essential skill for parents and business people who find themselves negotiating important decisions.

  • Skill- The Synergy Process: Creating Win Win Agreements

Bonus Lesson – Lesson 13

Artistry In The Synergy/Yes D.E.A.R Process

This Bonus Lesson focuses on artistry in the Synergy process. It is also Lesson #13 in the Creating Thriving Partnerships Course, so it leverages some of the more advanced techniques of the course. It shows you how you can build and re-invigorate integrity in your agreements, understanding with your partner, and trust in the partnership.

  • Skill- Avoid the “losing move.” Multi-dimensional communication. “The Coaching” that Mark uses for EVERY relationship issue.
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